One thing that I don’t appreciate about mommy hood is the milestone race. It is a race that I choose not to participate in, but always seem to get sucked up in anyway. It is perpetuated by the endless lists you can find everywhere online that tell you where your child should be at that particular week of their development , and also by moms everywhere. I can’t seem to go through a store checkout line these days without a mom asking me what milestones my son has hit so far.
My current flippant answer is, “a bunch of them.”
Now don’t get me wrong, I am extremely proud of my son. I think he is just wonderful, incredibly smart, and so sweet. Just like my mother did for her children I keep track of his development so he can look back at these years later in life… although I use an app for that 😉
I do believe that milestones should be celebrated. I just don’t agree with the competitive posturing that many mothers seem to have when it comes to milestones. Babyhood is not a race, and every child develops at his or her own pace. For example, at 9 months my son is already furniture walking all the time and can stand unassisted for a few seconds until he realizes he isn’t holding onto anything. I know other kids the same age who are really good at stacking blocks or that are using sign language. Both of these things are not things that my son excels at. Every child develops at a different rate. Sometimes one kid might be making leaps and bounds in one area, but lagging behind in others.
Normal childhood development does not follow a set course for every kid. The important thing is that they hit the milestones eventually, not when or what order they are in. I wish all moms (and dads too sometimes) could drop the competitive edge to these conversations and just celebrate their hard work and their children’s accomplishments.
And now I will get off my soap box 🙂